How NOT to Start An Online Dating Email: “Venus Sent You to Me”
October 8, 2008
My intense dislike for online dating shall, for the moment, forge on.
This is a perfect example of why I don’t believe in it: Following are excerpts from an actual email a friend of mine received from a potential suitor on Match.com.
Would YOU want to date this man, I ask? Read on:
“Venus sent you to me and I felt resonate with your profile. After seeing your charming and warm smile, I asked myself, Heaven must be missing an angel! I couldn’t help responding to your profile.
I believe that we share similar values and have a few common interests. You seem to be sincere, unpretentious, and down-to-earth, and they are qualities that I truly admire in a person.
Being as romantic as I am, I would welcome the opportunity to worship the ground you walk on if you open your heart to me.
Please keep smiling as your smile makes this world a more beautiful place to live in. Thanks for taking the time to read my letter and I certainly look forward to hearing from you soon.”
Nice, polite guy? I’m sure. But I still just vomited in my mouth.
October 8, 2008 at 1:30 pm
“After seeing your charming and warm smile, I asked myself, Heaven must be missing an angel!”
That’s not a question. That’s a statement. Your friend would be wise to stay away from a man who doesn’t know proper punctuation … Oh, and that email is the cheesiest.
October 8, 2008 at 3:26 pm
My favorite thing about that email is that it’s so vague, that it’s probably his form email. WTF is up with people who use form responses on dating websites? You’re looking for love, for the most important relationship of your life, and you can’t string together a few original sentences?
October 8, 2008 at 4:19 pm
I concur with the responses above. The non-questioning question is a definite deal-breaker for a wordsmith such as your angelic friend.
Also, how hard is it to actually READ someone’ profile and say something like, “You like gnomes? I like gnomes!” instead of sending a canned response (and a lame one at that)? Form letters don’t work when applying for jobs or looking for dates.
p.s. I do like gnomes.
October 8, 2008 at 6:39 pm
Umm… can you say stalker?
That’s not romantic, it’s scary.
October 9, 2008 at 1:14 pm
I agree, if I get something that I even suspect is a “form letter” from someone I don’t even bother responding. I give guys points for constructing a thoughtful email and mentioning things that they read in my profile, even if I don’t think there’s any kind of “match” there. I once got an email from a guy that mentioned how many things we have in common, like skiing and snowboarding-neither of which were mentioned in my profile.
These are probably the same guys who go to a bar and use the same pick-up line over and over and wonder why it doesn’t work. It gives you real insight into how they probably approach every other aspect of their lives.
I’m NOT like every other girl on the site, don’t treat me like I am!
October 9, 2008 at 8:37 pm
online love&games never worked for me. it’s hard.
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December 14, 2008 at 8:15 am
Nice Post
Well written
i agree. if someone sends an email to me and it goes like that and i know that this is not for me, i would rather not to bother myself to respond on that email.
Chris,